A Special Needs Family

Looking at a family who has a child with special needs looks a bit different then you'd think I bet. Special needs children have different disabilities, some look "normal" and some do not. Some are capable of having full mobility and some get cool wheelchairs to stroll through life.  What you don't see is behind closed doors, especially if the family has other children that are "normal". What you don't see is a life they didn't prepare for or expect for their future.

My husband Aaron and I work tirelessly and serve with all our energy all day long out of love for our children. We do research, pray and fasting and search for answers for our family. We work all day long to tend to all of our children's needs and devote time to them.

Once you devote more time and energy to your child with special needs, you will find that your "normal" children will feel left out and get pushed to the side. You don't do this on purpose at all, it just happens and it's not fair. My "normal" children have to adjust to having a more "zombie Mom" who runs out of energy extremely fast. They have to adjust to lots of doctor appointments, babysitting their siblings a lot more then usual, even when they don't want to. They have to adjust to a more busier and chaotic schedule, a messy and stressed out house. It's not their faults, they don't get a choice, and it's not fair.

What we parents get in return is more melt downs, crying children, arguing and tired children all. the. time. Our house is never clean and I have learned to let that go! What I think is important to learn from this is if you've been wondering how to help someone in your church, on your street, or a friend that has a special needs child is to just love them. Pray for them and love them.

(Mckay, Levi and Brooklyn sleeping in Brooklyn's room. This night Brooklyn was able to help Levi after he woke up from having a seizure in the middle of the night. She was able to help get him back to sleep. I am so thankful that she was able to be there for Levi.)

If you want to help alleviate the work for the friend/ family member, here is a list that has worked miracles in our family:

* Pray & fast for the family. It is free and it works.

*Bring in Dinners. Arrange with parent on days that work best. 

This will take one stressful thing off the parents to do list.

*Drop a treat by randomly for the family to enjoy. 

This lets the family know you are thinking about them.

*Text the friend letting them know you are thinking about them. 

*Ask the family to a park date. Have your family there too and just hang out and talk.

*Ask the Mom out for a Girls Night Out.

 It is pretty isolating when you are a parent to a special needs child.

*Drop off money donations or gift cards. 

You would be shocked at how much money is spent on medical bills, doctor appointments, medication, surgery, therapy, etc. 

*DO NOT make empty promises!!

This is the most disappointing and heart wrenching item that is so hard to look past!